"In the early hours of a cold Saturday morning in August 2011, I gave birth to my beautiful daughter.
As I held her in my arms, her tiny hand grasped around my thumb.
I gazed into her eyes and I realised in that moment that this little person depended on me.
I knew that I was going to be the best mum that I could be and I promised that I would give her the best that I possibly could give her, forever.
She looked at me with the biggest brown eyes with a content smile on her face.
This little girl was mine, my world, my life and my all"
I remember feeling so overwhelmed with the most intense love. I really believe that you do not understand ‘true love’ until you have a child of your own. It is literally like your heart is now on the outside.
I remember feeling so overwhelmed with the most intense love. I really believe that you do not understand ‘true love’ until you have a child of your own. It is literally like your heart is now on the outside.
I was almost 20 years old when I found out I was pregnant. If I had a map of how I expected my life to turn out this definitely wasn't the plan, not yet anyway!
Me and my boyfriend we're both living with friends and enjoying our life as young adults, not much routine and not much structure.
Choices: When you are faced with pregnancy there are ultimately 2 decisions that you can choose between. I wont list them as I do believe any young parent who has been thrown into unexpected pregnancy knows what they are. I am not going to judge on the 2nd decision as each to there own. I totally respect that people have different circumstances to what we did, however both me and my partner knew that the right thing for us personally was to embrace the blessing that we had been given.
I can honestly say that having my daughter was the most beautiful and the best experience of my life and I feel so in love with her every day.
Life as a young parent:
There is so much negativity surrounding young parents. So much, that when I found out I was pregnant I felt ashamed. I wasn't ashamed because I didn't want my baby. How I felt about my unborn child was the exact opposite to shame.. I loved her from the minute I knew she was there, when she was just a 'seed' and I was proud that god had given me such a perfect gift.
I guess I was always concious of what other people thought, how other people perceived us and our situation. Now, I kick myself that I let that even bother me in the slightest!
I knew my daughter was always going to be perfect because she was mine and I was hers.
Yes I was young, however what was I really going to miss out on that I couldn't enjoy with my child?
I personally have never been a big drinker. I had been illegally(*oops) going on nights out since been about 15 years old so to me, i'd done all that. I feel that everything I want to do in life can be done with my daughter by my side. It may take me a little longer but I know I am determined to make me and my family proud.
'Been a mum isn't hard. Everything else is' - You rarely have a moment to yourself and when you do there are so many other jobs that need doing that it is never possible for you to relax completely.
Your baby needs you constantly. Your jobs have to take a back seat, that your house is no longer spotless, your clothes are rarely ironed. You rarely have time to do your hair or make-up, not properly anyway and they really control every aspect of your life but that is what been a mum is.
As a woman I think we were born to care and love our children.
The smile on your child's face when they wake up on a morning, when they feel worried or scared and need a cuddle or when there tired after a long day and again just want a nice cuddle from mummy. It really does make life worthwhile.
Every day is an adventure. Every day brings something new and something so perfect. Even the negatives, the smelly nappies, the poorly days, the sleepless nights obviously at the time are challenging, however when you look back even them parts are lovely. Believe me, been a mum turns you into a right weirdo. Haha.
Materialistic - In life you can spend £100's even £1000's on material items to make you happy.
You pick the item, take it home and it is fantastic. It's the best thing you have ever purchased. You show all your friends and at the time can't imagine anything better. However after a while, after a few weeks the novelty has worn off. It's not as exiting any more and you want something new.
That isn't the case with your baby. You love them every day!
Every day they do something new, something different and they make you happy every day. You may have to spend a lot of money on the material things that you apparantly 'need' for your baby, however the beauty of your child is that you made them (along with the help of someone else of course ;)
This doesn't give you much of a clue on my personal experience. It's just a few opinions that I have relating to my experience.
If you are a young mum, you have every chance to be a brilliant mum and having a fantastic bond with your child. Age does not matter and it's about time society realised that.
xJx
Me and my boyfriend we're both living with friends and enjoying our life as young adults, not much routine and not much structure.
Choices: When you are faced with pregnancy there are ultimately 2 decisions that you can choose between. I wont list them as I do believe any young parent who has been thrown into unexpected pregnancy knows what they are. I am not going to judge on the 2nd decision as each to there own. I totally respect that people have different circumstances to what we did, however both me and my partner knew that the right thing for us personally was to embrace the blessing that we had been given.Life as a young parent:
There is so much negativity surrounding young parents. So much, that when I found out I was pregnant I felt ashamed. I wasn't ashamed because I didn't want my baby. How I felt about my unborn child was the exact opposite to shame.. I loved her from the minute I knew she was there, when she was just a 'seed' and I was proud that god had given me such a perfect gift.
I guess I was always concious of what other people thought, how other people perceived us and our situation. Now, I kick myself that I let that even bother me in the slightest!
I knew my daughter was always going to be perfect because she was mine and I was hers.Yes I was young, however what was I really going to miss out on that I couldn't enjoy with my child?
I personally have never been a big drinker. I had been illegally(*oops) going on nights out since been about 15 years old so to me, i'd done all that. I feel that everything I want to do in life can be done with my daughter by my side. It may take me a little longer but I know I am determined to make me and my family proud.
'Been a mum isn't hard. Everything else is' - You rarely have a moment to yourself and when you do there are so many other jobs that need doing that it is never possible for you to relax completely.
Your baby needs you constantly. Your jobs have to take a back seat, that your house is no longer spotless, your clothes are rarely ironed. You rarely have time to do your hair or make-up, not properly anyway and they really control every aspect of your life but that is what been a mum is.
As a woman I think we were born to care and love our children.
The smile on your child's face when they wake up on a morning, when they feel worried or scared and need a cuddle or when there tired after a long day and again just want a nice cuddle from mummy. It really does make life worthwhile.Every day is an adventure. Every day brings something new and something so perfect. Even the negatives, the smelly nappies, the poorly days, the sleepless nights obviously at the time are challenging, however when you look back even them parts are lovely. Believe me, been a mum turns you into a right weirdo. Haha.
Materialistic - In life you can spend £100's even £1000's on material items to make you happy.
You pick the item, take it home and it is fantastic. It's the best thing you have ever purchased. You show all your friends and at the time can't imagine anything better. However after a while, after a few weeks the novelty has worn off. It's not as exiting any more and you want something new.
That isn't the case with your baby. You love them every day!
Every day they do something new, something different and they make you happy every day. You may have to spend a lot of money on the material things that you apparantly 'need' for your baby, however the beauty of your child is that you made them (along with the help of someone else of course ;)
This doesn't give you much of a clue on my personal experience. It's just a few opinions that I have relating to my experience.
If you are a young mum, you have every chance to be a brilliant mum and having a fantastic bond with your child. Age does not matter and it's about time society realised that.
xJx
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